By Toni Bernhard J.D. in Psychology Today.
I became chronically ill in 2001. For several years afterward, I was a master at making a difficult situation worse for myself. The list is long, but I’ll limit myself to six ways in which I did this:
- I hated my body for not recovering from what had appeared to be a simple viral infection.
- I hated my mind because I thought if it were strong enough mentally, I could will myself back into health.
- I blamed every doctor I saw for not being able to “fix” me.
- I felt judged by family, friends, and co-workers because I was convinced they thought I was a malingerer since I continued to be in poor health.
- I blamed myself because I thought I was continually letting others down by being so limited in what I could do.
- I thought the world was being unfair to me. I resented the way all my plans—professional and personal—had to be dramatically altered.
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